Keeping Focus

Saturday, October 14, 2017

What is your focus?

Are you focused on how many things are going wrong?
Are you focused on the love of your family?
Are you focused on how you're going to pay the bills this month?
Are you focused on believing life will work itself out?

Life is tough. Everyone everywhere has difficulties in their life. We are all different so don't waste your time comparing your struggles to another's. Just know that we all have battles we would rather not fight. These challenges throw our brains off track. They tend to alter our course of thinking.

Sometimes we get so caught up in thinking about how we are going to overcome life's difficulties that we lose our focus on what is truly important. For me, my most important focus is my faith. (Like before, I know this is not everyone's most important focus - we're all different!) Figure out what drives you and make sure you keep it in focus.

The moment I realized just how off focus I was, I worked hard to change my thoughts. I suddenly felt a weight lift off my shoulders. While I am still having to work hard to take care of everyday challenges, I am also much happier. Things don't seem so daunting! Don't let your focus become overrun with the difficulties.

 Keep your focus and thrive.

Fall Down Seven, Get Up Eight

Sunday, October 8, 2017

The last two weeks of my life have been a whirlwind of negativity. As hard as you fight to keep negativity locked out, sometimes it manages to find a way in. That is exactly what happened to me, but I'll save you the details of the events and individuals that tried to steal my joy. This isn't a post looking for sympathy, instead I'd rather inform you on how I told that negativity it was NOT welcome here.

I have to let my feelings out. I know many of you are not that way and like to keep things bottled up. I think it can be beneficial to everyone to say their feelings out loud, no matter how nasty they might be. Yes, you will probably say things you don't mean out of frustration, but better to say it to a trusted friend than to let it bottle up and be blurted out to the wrong person. Another great option is to write it out. Let it out on paper and when you're done, rip it to shreds. When we let our feelings out, it allows us to move on.

Next, I ensure I have someone I know will give good advice. Disclaimer: you may not always agree with their advice and you do not have to take it. More than anything, this person gets you thinking about the situation from a different angle. For me, this is my mother. She always manages to validate my feelings but also help me to think about the situation from a different perspective. This helps to lighten the load on my shoulders. While it doesn't make the situation right, it still allows me to logically reason through it.

Finally, I remember that NO ONE deserves to have such power over me. When I allow someone to upset me, they are in control of my emotions, not me. This is the hardest part for me. It isn't easy to just "move on." We have to remember that no one deserves the right to anger us. If we let our emotions take control, they have won. They have inflicted exactly what they wanted to. Do not give them that gratification.

Be confident and live your life. Don't you dare let someone's words stop you from standing up for what you believe in. "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." -Eleanor Roosevelt

Reconnecting

Sunday, September 24, 2017

Recently, I have found myself caught up in and overwhelmed by trying to do a million and one things. We all feel that from time to time, whether it be with our family, our job, our hobbies... We get so wrapped up in things to the point we become disconnected from other important things in our life. I know we can't dump our responsibilities but I bet if you try hard enough you can make time to reconnect with more than just what's keeping you so busy.

For me, it was a friend and my faith. I have an incredible friend here in Charlotte that I hadn't seen in over a month until just recently. I have been so wrapped up in work and chores that I haven't made time for her. The same thing has happened with my faith. I have been pushing it to the side to make time for other less important things. (I know your priorities might be different than mine and that's fine! This applies to anything in life!) You see, there comes a point when you have to stop. Stop working, stop trying to get it all done, and you have to reconnect.

If you're anything like me, that can be difficult. I get so caught up in thinking I have to get things done that I feel like if I take time for something else, the world might fall apart. Helpful hint, it won't. Take a moment and think, what is your life missing? Take some time for it this week. Your work will get done. Don't let it take over! Take some time and reconnect, you'll be glad you did.
 

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